Dr. Ruth’s secret ingredient to a better relationship? Quickie trips

When it comes to keeping a relationship vibrant, I am against vegging out, especially if it’s binge-watching some television series for hours on end. In order for relationships to remain healthy, they require meaningful communication between the two partners. If your brains are both in a vegetative state, then how much is being communicated between the two of you?

One reason people don’t communicate is that they run out of interesting, brain-stimulating topics. That’s understandable, but then you must take positive steps to fix that situation. And here’s an easy solution: go on a “quickie” vacation.

Why a quickie trip? It would be nice if you could take an extended vacation at the drop of a hat, but that’s probably not in the cards. Your relationship needs invigorating now, not six months from now. So if the choice is vegging out next weekend or taking a stimulating quick vacation, the choice should be simple.

And let me back this up with some recent survey results from travel site Hotwire. The survey reported that 41% of millennials felt a stronger bond with their significant other after taking a short getaway and 86% agreed they would be more adventurous in bed during an improvised getaway with their partner than when they are at home. The latter should be enough of an inducement for most couples all by itself, no?

The survey also showed that 53% of those who have taken a 2-3 night “quickie” getaway have experienced a sense of improved well-being – including happier moods and a more fulfilled outlook on life, with 95% having experienced some kind of emotional benefit.

While what you do during a vacation is important in judging its quality, so is what you bring home. Will you be talking about what you did for the coming weeks? For that to happen, you have to visit places that offer brain food like museums, plays and historical sites. You could also take classes in cooking, art or anything else that interests you. If your vacation involves sitting by a body of water, then I recommend you both read books on the same topic that fascinates the two of you, and then compare what you’ve learned from your book over dinner or after making love.

Hotwire also recently listed the best destinations for a quickie trip, comparing over 10,000 data points based on cost, convenience and things to do. Here are some of my favorites:


Santa Fe, New Mexico is a lovely town with a lot to experience and one must-stop for those seeking to stimulate both their intellects and libidos is the Georgia O’Keeffe Museum. Georgia painted many western sceneries, but she is most famous for her flowers. If you don’t see the connection between her subject matter and sex, well, let’s put in this way, I’m sure you will.

I know a lot of people visit New Orleans, LA because of the food and drink, but if you overindulge in either or both, you might ruin the romantic mood. However, it’s also one of the music capitals of the world, and listening to music does wonders for the brain. It releases endorphins and other chemicals and brings you closer together while subduing negative emotions. So if you find yourselves holding each other while you’re enjoying some great jazz, maybe it’s time to head back to your hotel for a quickie before hitting the streets that never sleep again for some more entertainment.

Philadelphia, PA delivers so much American history right to the doorstep of that Hotwire Hot Rate hotel deal you booked. While you might not consider Ben Franklin sexy, he was actually a babe magnet in his time. So as you walk the streets of Philadelphia, try to learn a bit more about this aspect of the man who said “early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise,” because clearly he has many lessons to offer.

College towns, like Austin TX or Madison, WI may have a lot of bars, which means there’s plenty of nightlife, but they also have campuses that are worthy of exploration. Visit one of the libraries that don’t require an ID and role-play your hot librarian fantasy later that night.

Of course, the place I choose to call home, New York, NY, has it all with museums, theaters, great food, nightclubs, and more. But if you’re looking to add some energy to your relationship, then simply walking down the main avenues will do the trick. New York has a vitality like no place else in the world and without a doubt, it’s catching. Just remember, if you can make love there, you’ll be set to make love anywhere!


Need more travel inspiration? The last-minute travel experts at Hotwire collaborated with 21 of their top destinations on the “America’s Best” Index to create custom “quickie” itineraries to help guide travelers to the must-see’s and must do’s in each city, including locally recommended restaurants, bars, attractions, transportation and a few hidden gems to make the most of their one, two, or three day getaway.

Hotwire’s everyday Hot Rate® deals offer one-of-a-kind savings by revealing the hotel name after you book, getting you 4-star hotels at 2-star prices and letting you book your next quickie trip without breaking the bank. For more information on how to “Make it a Quickie,” or to view the complete city index and custom itineraries, be sure to visit quickie.hotwire.com.


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